英语翻译The married people argue most over issues like who is going to be in control.When I was younger,my need to control arose out of fear,a lack of trust and insecurity.Finally I realized I didn't need to control my wife - that,indeed,I ought not to control her,that I couldn't control her,and that if I tried,I would destroy our marriage.Giving up control is often confused with weakness.But the winner in a home argument is never really the winner.When y

英语翻译
The married people argue most over issues like who is going to be in control.When I was younger,my need to control arose out of fear,a lack of trust and insecurity.Finally I realized I didn't need to control my wife - that,indeed,I ought not to control her,that I couldn't control her,and that if I tried,I would destroy our marriage.Giving up control is often confused with weakness.But the winner in a home argument is never really the winner.When you win a battle and your partner submits,you have actually lost._uk\1\5Bp\5*u
What do we want most from a marriage?To love and be loved.To be happy and secure.To grow,to discover.A love relationship is the garden,in which we plant,cultivate and harvest the most valuable crop,our own self; and in which our spouse is provided with the same rich soil in which to bloom.We cannot obtain what we want unless our partner also gets what he or she wants.A woman may,for example,want to go to the cinema.Her husband might dislike the film.But spending a few hours with his wife can bring joy to his wife.That's a very small price to pay for joy,isn't it?