关系代词何时可以省略?

关系代词有who,whose,whom,which,that等,主要用来引导定语从句,它一方面代表定语从句所修饰的那个名词,另一方面在从句中充当一个成分,如主语,宾语,表语,定语等.
1.关系代词which,whom,who,that在定语从句中作宾语时可以省略.
Here is the man (who/that/whom)you're been looking for.
以下情况不能省略：
（1）在介词+whom与介词+which中,whom,which不能省略.
Do you know any shops nearby in which I can buy flowers?
That is the headmaster with whom my father was talking just now.
注：当介词放在动词后时,which,whom就可以省略.
Who is the man (whom) you talked with just now?
（2）在非限制性定语从句中,作宾语的关系代词也不能省略.
Mr Green,whom you know,is the tallest in our school.
The elephant is like a spear,as anybody can see.
（3）在the same ...as,such...as,as...as,the same...that中,as,that即使作宾语,也不能省略I have bought the same bicycle as you have (bought).(指同类用as)
This is the same book that I read the day before yesterday.(that指同一个)
（4）当由and,but,or等连词连接两个或两个以上的定语从句修饰一个先行词时,第一个关系代词可省,但第二,第三个不可省略.
This is the book (which) I read yesterday and which I find very interesting.
2.当that在从句中作补语时可以省略.
He is not the man (that) he used to be.
She is all (that) a teacher should be.
3.在there be 结构中出现定语从句,或在定语从句中出现there be 时,用作主语的关系代词也可省略.
There is a man downstairs (who) wants to see you.
This is the best dictionary (that) there is in the library.
4.状语的省略
（1）当先行词是reason,而且定语从句中作原因状语时,关系代词可用why,that,也可以省略.
The reason (why/that) he failed was his laziness.
That is the reason (why) I did it.
（2）当先行词是way,且在定语从句中作方式状语时,关系代词可用in which,that,也可以省略.
The way (in which/that) these comrades look at problems is wrong.
That was the way (in which/that) she worked the problem out.
注意：当关系代词在定语从句中作主语时,不省略.
例如：I don't know the way that/ which leads to the top of the mountains.
(3)当先行词是time时,关系代词可用when,that 或省略.
The second time (that) I saw him was in 1980.
I don't know the exact time (when/that) the sports meet will take place.
注意：关系代词作宾语有时也不能省略.
另:关系代词that在从句中作宾语或表语时可省略,例如：
I've forgotten much of the Latin I once knew.
我过去懂拉丁语,现在大都忘了.
He's changed.He's not the man he was.
他变化很大,已不是过去的他了.
资料可见:
建议多看看语法书,或者多问问同学和老师.光看资料是不一定能看懂的,关于语法的说明往往晦涩难懂,所以问问别人是必要的.