做非谓语动词题是看主动被动关系还是看主谓动宾关系?是不是主动关系=主谓关系 被动关系=动宾关系(老师上课时讲非谓语动词时都是看主动被动关系,但是看金考卷上面的答案解析是看主谓动宾关系,所以就有点不明白)

没错,非谓语动词一定要看所关联的名词与其是主谓关系还是动宾关系.主谓=主动,动宾=被动.如：
I must have the work done. 因为还原顺序就是do the work, 动宾关系,所以要用被动形式.
I will have John do the work. 因为John与do是主谓关系,所以要用主动形式do.
I know the man sitting by the window. the man与sit是主谓关系,所以用主动形式.
I like the car driven by the beautiful girl. car与drive应为drive the car,是动宾关系,所以用被动形式.
老师与参考书上讲的意思是一样的,只不过说法或叫法不同而已.