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This article is not about enrollment management,leadership or big changes on campus.This article is about you and your personal development.It is about personal power,perspective and attitude.It is about giving you the tools to see things differently than you do today or to remember something you knew but perhaps have strayed away from doing.Sometimes,we know what we can do to lead a more powerful life yet the hustle and bustle of daily living can get in the way.I have learned and applied these tips along my journey and have seen dramatic results in my life.If you can take away one tip that will make a difference for you then I鈥檝e done my job!This article incorporates the circle of thought,the power of mistakes,and tips to living your life powerfully and living a life you love.
Have you ever achieved something you worked really hard for?Have you ever wanted something so much you could almost taste it?If you have been in this state of receiving,most likely you were in a position of positive personal power and had the right attitude!In this article,we鈥檒l take a look at personal power,perspective and tips for living a powerful life in more detail.
The Power of the Mind
I really believe the mind is a very powerful thing!To demonstrate this point,I would like you to imagine putting a lemon in your mouth.Yes,a lemon.Taste the lemon,feel the lemon and smell the lemon.What physical reactions are you experiencing?If you are like most people,you are probably experiencing some physical sensations.Now,think about a time when you were really excited or angry about something.Whether you picked a happy or angry situation,you are probably experiencing similar sensations:heart rate increase,blood pressure increase or other sensations.While the sensations may be similar,the difference is your reaction to them and the effect on your mind.If you choose to hold a negative thought,your mind recognizes this thought and believes it to be true.Additionally,if you hold a negative thought that manifests itself through your physical body,it can affect your blood pressure; create ulcers,etc鈥 over a period of time.If you choose happy thoughts,your mind also recognizes this and believes it to be true.So,why not choose thoughts that better serve you?
Have you ever heard the term 鈥淲hat the mind can believe,it can achieve鈥?I really believe this to be true and what the conscious mind believes sinks into the subconscious mind.The goal is to ensure that you have more positive thoughts than negative ones.The subconscious mind can鈥檛 tell the difference between truth and lies.Marcus Aurelius Antonius said,鈥淥ur life is what our thoughts make it.鈥滭br/>Our Circle of Thoughts
Aristotle said 鈥淲e Are What We Repeatedly Do鈥?I want to share with you the cycle that occurs with negative self talk.Negative thoughts lead to developing a negative belief that does not serve you.This leads to negative or limiting habits which creates similar experiences to further reinforce the cycle.This creates more experiences which reinforce these thoughts.You see,being the creatures of habit we are,we tend to allow this vicious cycle over and over and over again without realizing the effect this has on our mind.
Other things we do that hurt us include:
1.You look at things in black or white categories.There is no grey!Seeing things only in black or white limit us.Do you know anyone like this?
2.We view a negative event as an 鈥榓lways鈥 event.Bad things always happen to us.
3.We think of the negatives and discount the positives.If someone gives us a compliment,we discount it or respond with a quick compliment back.This takes away from you.
4.We blow things out of proportion without looking at all the facts.
5.We see only our 鈥榮tory鈥 about what happened.
Our stories are pretty amazing.We can be attached to our stories,can鈥檛 we?Just think of a time when you were really excited about something and the person you were talking to about this excitement wasn鈥檛 as excited as you were about the situation and generally didn鈥檛 share your enthusiasm.Have you ever lost your passion for your story when this happens?If this has happened to you,it can throw you off balance for a bit and it can actually be hard to get excited about your story again!Have you ever talked to somebody about something and something happened to interrupt your flow of thought and you forgot what you were talking about?I鈥檓 sure this has happened to all of us as some time or another.I attended a conference once where one of our assignments was to talk to a partner about a story over and over and over and over and over again.Our job was to communicate the same story to this person over and over.This was such a powerful experience because eventually we lost our passion for our story and we became detached from it.The point of the exercise taught us that our story is simply our interpretation of what really happened and the truth or facts are somewhere in the middle.
In the workshops I facilitate on these topics,I have everyone spend a few minutes sharing something they are passionate about.After a bit,I ask the listeners to stop listening and do something completely unrelated to listening.That is,the listener鈥檚 job is to completely ignore the person talking.They are to look away,file their nails or do anything but listen.This accomplishes something similar in that the people sharing their story suddenly lose interest in their story or can get angry about not being heard.Either way,the passion is gone and it can be difficult to get it back.It eventually becomes unimportant yet a few moments prior,they were so attached to their stories as if it was truly part of them.Our stories are just that:stories.They are our interpretation of what happens in our lives.Sometimes,it is difficult to put things in perspective and our stories can consume us as we are so set in our ways of being.
The Power of Mistakes
We all made mistakes at one time or another.How do you view mistakes?Do you view mistakes as something negative or positive?I think mistakes are absolutely necessary for our growth.Making the same mistake twice is another story,however!I prefer to think of mistakes as opportunities and I like to look at the learning and opportunity in all mistakes.Some people view mistakes as failures but I think each perceived 鈥榝ailure鈥 takes us that much closer to success.There are countless examples of this in action.I don鈥檛 know if any invention would ever come to fruition if inventors stopped when they made a mistake.How long would you give the average baby to learn how to walk before you didn鈥檛 let him try any more?That is a ridiculous question,right?Why wouldn鈥檛 you apply this to yourself?All too often we are our own worst critic and we stop trying because we make a mistake or fail.What we really need to do is to remember our magnificence and realize that we are all winners.Seize opportunities,learn from mistakes,and be your own best friend by giving yourself the same support you would give others.I give thanks everyday for every experience and ask for the wisdom to learn what I need to take with me moving forward.
14 Tips To A Happier You!
Here are tips I have incorporated in my life.These strategies help me stay focused,positive,overcome obstacles and keep first things first.
1.Enjoy getting up in the morning.Yes,I really do enjoy getting up each morning.I鈥檒l admit I鈥檓 not a morning person,per se,yet I appreciate having each day.How many people do you know that never smile or say good morning in the office?Do you wake up wanting to get to work so you can see these people?What kind of attitude do you take with you each morning?
2.Be an optimist.Sounds simple yet some people choose for themselves and their lives to be more pessimistic and see the glass as half empty.I choose to see the glass as half full.I find when I do this I am open to opportunities and options that seem available to me that wouldn鈥檛 be otherwise,and conflict can be resolved so much easier.
3.Laugh at your own mistakes.Can you laugh at yourself?I try not to take things too seriously,so I can laugh at myself when necessary.